finding your basecamp – a guide to you who’s feeling lost

Definition of Basecamp: Imagine your safe haven, a place that doesn’t tie you down but empowers you to explore the vast world outside.

When I talk about finding your basecamp in collaboration with Libra Wellness, I want to delve deeper.

Physically, your basecamp might be your home, your room, or any space that resonates with you. Mentally and emotionally, it’s where your self-esteem resides, where your inner dialogue takes place, where your loved ones surround you. In terms of relationships, it could be with your partner, family, or even your furry companions.

In a changing world, where digital nomads roam without a permanent physical basecamp, the importance of an internal basecamp becomes even more pronounced.

In therapy, I like to describe it as follows:

“You are the only person you will have a long-lasting relationship with, so why not make it a nurturing and safe one?”

So, how can we construct a stronger and safer internal basecamp without it constraining our capacity for growth? How do we create an anchor that grounds us without feeling sense of lost?

1. Know Your Baggage:
Often, limiting beliefs, past traumas, and unrealistic expectations are the baggage we carry when we feel stuck in certain thought patterns.

Picture this: You’re trying to embark on a new venture, but there’s a subtle voice saying, “What if you fail?”, “It’s going to be tough”, “If you can’t succeed 100%, don’t bother starting.” That’s like stuffing your tent with all these unhelpful backpacks, leaving you no space to breathe. Then we feel even more resistance in building new experiences, which in turn make the so called ‘basecamp’ a stuck point.

You carry our wounds from the past with us and it comes out as voices like so, which may not be entirely true! That’s why learning about them will start create more awareness on what’s keeping you stuck, which in turn, help you pause and re-evaluate how to build your basecamp.

2. Build Your Basecamp:
Make your physical surroundings cozy and colorful, aligning them with your preferences.
Build a supportive community of people who celebrate your journey.
Start sustainable habits that builds a better protective factor for yourself.

While I mentioned building your inner basecamp, recognizing that you have the ability to find control (be it stepping away, or responding differently) to your external environment empowers your inner basecamp.

We often find ourselves in situations where we struggles but forget that we’re no longer the children with little control over our surroundings. Start noticing what aspects you can control, such as your emotions or your choice of company.

Watch this to see how the co-founders of Libra Wellness do so as a couple AND business partners!

3. Get to Know Yourself:
Just as we make friends by getting to know them better, the same principle applies to self-acceptance. Taking time to understand different facets of yourself allows you to be gentler with them.

Maybe there’s a playful part of you that yearns to explore the world, or a strict part that seeks safety within the boundaries, and perhaps a timid part that’s hesitant due to past wounds (a modality we use in therapy called the Internal Family Systems by Dr. Richard Schwartz).

All these parts deserve acknowledgment and space, but they shouldn’t take over the driver’s seat if you aim for greater calm and self-awareness.

In my view, fostering sustainable habits, curating nurturing environments, and forming meaningful connections are key to creating a better basecamp.

What’s your take?

p/s: Thank you Libra Wellness for having MINC.Care to be part of your newly launch campaign! Having these products in my bathroom has been an additional reminder to how small little things & habits in your daily life can help you practice more mindfulness.